I am so happy to announce the blog series called The Many Faces Of Perseverance. I thought it would be nice to take the filter out of our daily lives and to be able to relate to many different people about struggles that we each face. I am learning everyday to embrace the struggles we go through, instead of fearing them. I am learning that everything we go through is putting us on our path and helping us grow. I am learning that even when its uncomfortable and hard that we are learning so much about ourselves and that our struggles are shaping us into a better version of ourselves. I hope you gain guidance, inspiration, and support from this series – Alexa
Lisa, what made you want to share your story?
What made me what to share my story with others was the thought of so many other girls going through the exact situation I was going through and feeling alone. You should know that you are never alone, somebody out there is struggling just like you. Life does not have to be a negative dark place. You are in charge of your happiness and healthiness. Make your life beautiful because it should never be anything less than that.
Hi, my name is Lisa Kelly. Nice to meet you. I’m 23 years old, I am a proud homeowner with my fiancé. We have 2 dogs who we are obsessed with, my passions include, health and wellness, beauty, fitness, cooking, blogging and interior decorating. Life is so amazing at the moment I would not change a thing but, it hasn’t always been that way. Here’s my story:
I was in a relationship since 8th grade until I turned 20 years old. It lasted just over 7 years, 7 years of my life with someone that made me unhappy, insecure and definitely not my best self. But, I loved him and he loved me and we did everything in our power to make it work until we just couldn’t. It wasn’t always bad. We had magical moments, passion and real love for each other and I think there is a quote that says sometimes two people are meant to fall in love with each other, yet just not meant to be together. I feel like that quote was made for us. I am so proud of the woman I am today and I would not be who I am if it were not for him. Because of those 7 years I know exactly what I am worth and that is the most important thing in life.
Being unhappy for so long tends to really take a toll on you. I supplemented my unhappiness with an eating disorder. Becoming insecure in my relationship also caused me to develop body dysmorphia. I knew I was beautiful somewhere deep down but every day when I woke up and looked in the mirror I would only see the negative. I would quickly run into the bathroom every morning, strip down and weigh myself. If I was anything over 98 pounds I would torture myself. I would chug lemon water and act like I was satisfied. I even cut my hours down at work to be able to have more hours in the gym. I would drink coffee with unsweetened almond milk as if it was my lunch and I would go to bed listening to the sound of my stomach. I would have 1 or 2 days out of the month that I would completely binge eat and call it a “cheat day”, then I would spend the next day starving again and trying to work everything I ate off for hours. I had gotten so thin everyone was making comments. I think I liked the attention, the worried look on people’s faces. The compliments from others. My friends all asking what I was doing and to teach them my ways. I was unhealthy and I knew it. I don’t know why but all of that helped masked my sadness. I dreamed of a perfect happy relationship with my soul mate and I was trying to force something that was not meant to be.
Fast forward a few months and things were changing, I was getting my own apartment with my sister. I was becoming happier with this new found independence. I was also becoming more educated on organic foods, veganism and fitness. That is when I started my blog and food Instagram and started connecting with so many other girls that went through the same things as I did and I finally no longer felt alone. Although things were wonderful, my relationship was still suffering but I seemed to just care less. Something clicked and I knew I would be okay without him. Although I was so petrified of being alone, we eventually broke up, I was devastated and then one day I woke up and I just got over it. I put all my energy into educating myself on nutrition, fitness and blogging. Time had gone by, I truly felt as if I had found myself and that is when I met Sean, my fiancé. The love of my life. The man I had always dreamed about. I can truly call him my best friend. I am so thankful for all of the pain and sadness I went through because it made me more appreciative for what I have now and taught me about what I wanted in life. To travel to never let a relationship define you, to have a loyal partner, to have a sense of balance, a successful blog and a real understanding of who I am as a person. Yes, I do still have some bad days and the body dysmorphia has not fully left me. Life is a constant changing journey, we are always evolving and nobody is perfect. I would take 1 or 2 bad days a month over a lifetime of unhappiness and unhealthiness.
This is actually the first time I have ever written my story down. The feelings it brings up are indescribable and I am so thankful I had this opportunity to share it with you all. Although all of this happened during 2013-14 writing it all down feels like it was yesterday. I hope that my story can help others suffering through hard times in their life whether it be a relationship, an eating disorder, a bad job, a break up, a loss of a friendship. Just know that life will get better. Sometimes you have to bite the bullet and do what you are most afraid to do to get what you want. Life is absolutely beautiful and it should never been seen as anything less.