The Many Faces Of Perseverance Blog Series. I thought it would be nice to take the filter out of our daily lives and to be able to relate to many different people about struggles that we each face. I am learning everyday to embrace the struggles we go through, instead of fearing them. I am learning that everything we go through is putting us on our path and helping us grow. I am learning that even when its uncomfortable and hard that we are learning so much about ourselves and that our struggles are shaping us into a better version of ourselves. I hope you gain guidance, inspiration, and support from this series – Alexa
Gabby, what made you want to share your story with others?
I think it’s truly amazing how we can connect with so many people online. I believe we can become more inspired and compassionate when we are open to other people’s experiences and stories. I’ll be honest I wasn’t really sure what “my story” was for the longest time (I still don’t) but I knew I wanted to share my life with others. There was a point where I felt so lost and had no clue what I was doing with my life. But I think it’s so important for us to share our struggles and hard times, not only the good moments, so we can realize we aren’t alone.
I guess I will start back 3 years ago when my dad was diagnosed with Parkinson’s. I felt like I had lost control of what was going on around me and I was only 17 going on 18. I never ever thought something bad would happen to someone so close to me. It has been very hard to watch a loved one live with chronic disease and I have never been more grateful for my health than I am now.
Shortly after my dad was diagnosed I graduated high school and decided to stay home and work before figuring out where I was going for post-secondary. My mom was in a bad car accident that year as well which left her with a head injury, broken collarbone and unable to do things like bathe herself, laundry, shopping, etc. For the longest time I struggled because no one my age understood and had any idea what I was experiencing. I didn’t talk about it either because I looked around and saw fellow 18 year old’s having fun and being carefree. I didn’t want people to think I was asking for sympathy or to somehow explain what was going on in my life. I felt like I had this huge responsibility to take care of my family, I put self care on the back burner and it soon became a very big struggle for me.
During that time I found myself comparing my life of staying at home to all of the people that got to move out and experience that independence. It’s so easy nowadays to get caught up comparing our lives and what they look like on social media. I was seeing their “highlight reel” and didn’t realize that maybe they too had moments of struggle and hardship but just didn’t share it. We only see a sliver of people’s day-to-day lives. Because of that I also felt that I needed to be doing what everyone else was doing, like partying, drinking, living in res, etc. and felt like if I wasn’t doing it then something was wrong with me. I’ve now accepted that I’m an old soul, more introverted, and an empath. I prefer being in at night, spending quality time with people I love, learning, cooking, and much more. I’m done trying to change myself or feel like I should be doing what others are doing – because you know what? That is such a sad life. We are not meant to be constantly unhappy with ourselves and want to change how we look, act, or come across on social media.
One thing I want to emphasize to everyone I connect with is that life is full of ups and downs and that is totally okay if you are experiencing that in this moment. I’ve realized I need to be more transparent and share what I’ve gone through with not only people in my life but on social media as well. I spent so long bottling up my worst moments but I know that even if it helps one person that is all that matters.
So post about the good moments, the rough patches, be open and vulnerable – because once we do, that is how we truly connect and share our love with the world. We have the capability to connect with people from so many beautiful places which is truly amazing. Trust that it will all workout. The better it gets, the better it gets.