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25 tips to rock your year

  1. Own your shit

    I put this as the very first one because I feel like to make any progress in our growth this is the biggest obstacle we face, not owning our own shit. If we want to be better, to have a better quality of life we need to own the things that we do that do not help our growth. Whatever it may be that hinders our growth, whether that’s anxiety, procrastination, not following through, exhaustion, stress, unhealthy coping mechanisms, accepting shitty relationships, rejection, failure. Anything that stops us from getting to where we want to be, and to being fulfilled within ourselves we need to accept it and change it so we can move forward.

  2. Dress Well

    I am always looking for a reason to dress up, I will literally get dressed up for no reason other than to feel good haha. I always like the saying if you look good, you feel good am I right? I am just saying that when I don’t put myself together I don’t feel as good, and  I am not in a productive state of mind to get anything done. There is nothing wrong with being a little extra every now and then 🙂

  3. Keep scheduling get together’s with friends

    THIS IS SO IMPORTANT! Make time for your friends always, make time to get out and go do something fun, plan get together’s, keep the connections alive!!!! Spending time with friends can be such a stress relief, don’t lose touch with the people that mean a lot to you just because you are busy. We all need a break from the 9-5 tedious routines that we all have. Make time, stop making excuses keep your friendships a priority you will be a happier person.

  4. Self love 

    This is equally as important, the quality of our life is solely based on how we feel about ourselves. It does not matter how many pairs of shoes you buy, how many materialistic things you have and how many likes and comments you get on your selfies if you do not love yourself none of that shit will matter. Stop filling the void with pointless shit and look within yourself to figure out what truly matters, and what will make you happy and fulfilled. FOCUS ON YOURSELF and learn what helps and what doesn’t. What makes you feel good about yourself and what doesn’t. How you view yourself is the most important. Remember that is it not selfish to put your well being first and to cut out anything that makes you feel unhappy.

  5. Travel

    I don’t think anything makes me happier than talking about traveling, and referring back to my list of places that I want to visit and what I want to do while I am there. The problem is I have all these plans to travel, and all these plans to go and I never do. What is the point of staying in one place and doing the same thing over and over again. We all need to travel, to expand our horizons, to adventure, this should be made a priority and we should be making it happen more often. It doesn’t matter how busy we are we don’t always have to travel far to explore and find new places.

  6. Feed your mind

    Oh how I love this, I make it a priority every single day to feed my mind, and  I am definitely not going to lose sight of this, this year or hopefully ever that would be quite unfortunate. I love learning, I love finding new ways to do things, I love motivational everything, reading books, listening to podcasts, I even enjoy some classes for school not all but some if they are interesting. I think it’s important that we expand our mind, we find new things, new information, new ways of doing things, seeing different perspectives, hearing different opinions on topics. I LOVE IT. So my advice is read, read, read, read as much as you can not only is it informative, and interesting, but it’s so relaxing to get lost in a book for a little while. If you don’t like reading podcasts are a great option to and listening to them on the go is even better 🙂

  7. Movement

    Move your body, I use to hate working out.. no really my friend Kim would ask me to workout and I would be like yeah!!! & then it would come time and I would back out, I would start a routine and then I would stop. However I always go back to I really want to live a healthier lifestyle, I really want to go to the gym more because it really does make me feel better. Once I stopped making so many damn excuses and actually got my ass on a routine I now can say I LOVE IT. You do not have to go to the gym everyday to feel proud of yourself, and to love yourself if that’t not for you. Move your body any way that makes you feel good, the gym, yoga, pilates, dance class, spinning, running, swimming, walking, anything with movement is going to make you feel so much better. You don’t have to be intense in the gym if you don’t want to be do you 🙂
  8. Be by yourself

    & this brings me to number 8 which I think can be very very hard for us, we constantly see other people in relationships and it makes us feel like we need to have one. Listen just stop just because you are single doesn’t mean you are unwanted, it doesn’t mean you aren’t worthy of a relationship, it doesn’t mean love isn’t coming your way it might just mean that this is your time to figure out yourself. maybe you aren’t in a place where you are ready to have a healthy/thriving relationship and that’s okay, just because you aren’t getting attention from someone every day does not decrease your value. Learn to be by yourself, Learn to do nice things for you, taking this time to learn what you even want in another person, what type of person would vibe well with you, what do you want out of this life, what do you want in the future. This is your time to figure out you and everything you want. USE IT and stop worrying about other people and their relationships. OH and last thing stop wasting your time talking to people just because you are bored, you know you don’t really like them don’t waste others time and don’t waste yours.

  9. Focus on your Faith

    Warning; This one is only for you, if you are religious if not go ahead and skip to #10! I have found in the last year that I am really focused on my faith and what that means to me. I do believe that if we stopped trying to control every single situation, and circumstance in our lives and gave it to God we would be more peaceful. This is not how I am though, this year I am really focused on focusing on my faith, instead on what I think should happen. I am learning that this year I want to learn to just Be Still.

  10. Find your own type of happiness

    Oh yes this one is a good one, someone asked me awhile ago what is happiness really? or something like that I cant remember correct verbiage but I really started thinking about that because I feel like happiness looks different for everyone. We are all so focused on what other people have and that makes us unhappy because we don’t have what other people have, but really is that even what will make us happy? We are all so different, happiness looks different for every single one of us. We should be focusing more on what makes us happy, than what we think will make us happy because somebody else has it so we are envious. There’s a quote from One Tree Hill (yes I am quoting this show because I loved it) “So I’ve been thinking about this whole being happy thing, and I feel like people get lost when they think about happiness as a destination. We’re always thinking that someday we will be happy; we’ll get that care of that job or that person in our lives that’ll fix everything. But happiness is a mood, and it’s a condition, not a destination. It’s like being tired  or hungry, its not permanent. It comes and goes, and that’s okay. And I feel like if people thought of it that way, they’d find happiness more often.”

  11.  Say goodbye to all things mediocre

    This is my favorite, probably because it took me a long time to accept that some people, and some situations just aren’t for me! I think that last year it really hit home that I shouldn’t settle for mediocre shit, that being friendships, relationships, jobs, whatever it is if it’s bringing unhappiness, or no growth at all it’s time to let whatever it is go. We don’t have time for mediocre shit, we don’t have time for pointless relationships, pointless drama, pointless friendships, pointless jobs that are going nowhere. STOP SETTLING FOR MEDIOCRITY and find the things that help you grow, find the job that keeps you learning, find the friendships that keep you laughing, and help you grow, and the people that will stick around and build you up when shit hits the fan because shit is going to hit the fan and ain’t nobody got time to lean on people who suck that’s all I’ m saying.

  12. Find your passion, and don’t let anyone talk you out of it

    I think this is really important, especially since I did this and I hope that no one else does this. If I can stress anything it’s that do not listen to anyone when it comes to your career. When I first decided I wanted to be a Social Worker do you think anyone was like that’s so awesome lol no they were like you aren’t going to make any money, you are going to be overworked, why do you want to do that ect ect ect. See what I mean I told people that I wanted to help others, and they came back with all these negative responses DO NOT LET OTHER PEOPLE TALK YOU OUT OF DOING SOMETHING THAT YOU KNOW YOU WILL LOVE. The opinions of others do not matter this is your life, do as you please. Thank them for expressing their concern, and keep moving along to your passions, your hobbies, whatever it is that brings you passion move towards it and stop letting other peoples views stop you.

  13. Quality over Quantity

    This deserves a blog post all on its on, QUALITY OVER QUANTITY. Always keep high quality people surrounding you, you don’t need fake people around you, we need supportive, honest, real, authentic relationships and anything that is not genuine needs to be kicked to the curb. There’s a saying that you are most like the 5 people you surround yourself with for a reason. Don’t keep shitty people close to you, don’t keep people you don’t trust in your life, don’t keep friendships/relationships that you have had for a long time just because they are comfortable always strive for quality not quantity.

  14. Push yourself

    I keep telling myself this daily lol.. because I am so ready to be done with school and to be doing something that actually brings me happiness, and growth however that takes time and we have to learn that we need to be consistently pushing ourselves to our goals and to our ambitions. It’s hard work to obtain our goals and a lot of us will have to start over, and that’s okay. Individual success comes at different times for different people. Don’t let someone else’s success bring you down, you will get there as long as you keep pushing yourself.

  15. Accept your flaws

    This is hard pill to swallow, we all have flaw and yes we all focus on them constantly. It doesn’t matter how confident a person seems to be, we all have things about ourselves that we don’t like, that we want to change and we have to accept this, and we have to be okay with this. We cant sit here and go over everything that is wrong with us constantly that will drop our self esteem like no other, accept that we are not perfect, accept that we wont like everything about ourselves, accept that we cant change some of them, and our flaws do not define us. Don’t let your self image rule your moods, you are more than your flaws stop focusing so much on what you don’t have, and what you aren’t and focus on everything that is good about you 🙂

  16. Celebrate EVERYTHING

    Celebrate everything, literally everything. I celebrate my birthday for an entire week just doing nice things for myself. YOU KNOW WHY because I damn deserve it and so do YOU! That promotion, that new relationship, friendships, birthdays, anniversaries, Holidays, degrees, new jobs whatever it may be make it all a big deal why the hell not? Everyone is always like it’s just another day NO these are milestones, these are things that are important to you CELEBRATE YOUR FUCKING SELF!

  17. Find the lesson

    You know I use to be very why me, why am I in this situation, why is this happening to me, why do I have to deal with this, why, why, why let me play the victim a little more why don’t I. It was ridiculous and if I just would of changed my perspective to the situations I was in then I probably would of handled them a hell of a lot better, but life’s a learning experience right? Always strive to find the lesson in what you are going through, we focus so much on emotion and how it makes us feel, and the why me but we should be saying okay what can I learn from this situation, what can I do differently to not be here again, what can is this trying to teach me? THIS IS WHEN YOUR MINDSET WILL CHANGE FROM WHY ME TO I GOT THIS SHIT.

  18. Empathy

    This is important, so so important to have empathy for others. We need to stop being so damn judgmental to ourselves and to everyone around us. We have no idea what people are going through, instead of judging why don’t we have empathy and reach out. Yes sometimes people are fucking assholes but you know what it’s not like you haven’t been an asshole before before we get our panties in a bunch we should try to be more empathetic and look at other people with empathy instead of a negative reaction. We might find that something we took in a negative way, was just somebody going through a shitty time. You never know, try empathy for awhile and see how well it works for you 🙂

  19. Do what YOU want

    I think this needs to be emphasized more DO WHAT YOU WANT, ill repeat that DO WHAT YOU WANT. So many people will want to give you their opinions on what they think you should do, which is nice, it’s great that you have some people who truly care about your and your well being and then some people are just telling you their opinion because they are projecting how they feel onto you, take it all and thank them but at the end of the day. You know whats best for you, you know what you want, you know what you need, DO not let others taking you away from your truth. Own that shit, lock it up and never give someone the key to deciding what you should be doing.

  20. Balance is the fucking key

    When I first started eating healthy and going to the gym, I would be really hard on myself. If I ate something “Bad” I would feel guilty about it for days and then tell myself that I need to start all over. NO this is awful, you don’t need to be on a diet, you just need to adopt a balanced lifestyle. Yes I love eating healthy, but you know what else i love FUCKING DONUTS. Yes I love working out but do you know what else I love spending the day in bed and not doing anything. A healthy lifestyle doesn’t have to be an all or nothing deal. I eat healthy and I also eat what looks good to me, I workout and I also take time to relax. Balance is key, too much of anything is never good keep that in mind!

  21. Focus more on experiences 

    This is really important to me, because I really want my life to be based on experiences not on all the materialistic things that I have. I hope that I can also teach Brielle to always put experiences over the next best thing and I hope she lives that way as well. Yes it’s awesome to get the next best thing, but you know what’s also cool getting out of your element, experiencing new things, learning new things, going to new places, meeting new people, meeting people with different backgrounds than you, anything that is a new experience will always top the next best gadget.

  22. Individuality

    What makes you, you? Do you even know? Are you happy with you? Are you fulfilled? Are you secure in yourself? Are you confident in who you are? Do you know what you want and what you don’t want? It’s so important that we always mantain our Individuality and never be ashamed of it. Rock it, just because someone else doesn’t agree, or isn’t into something you are doesn’t make it less awesome. Go for the things you love, rock you individuality always.

  23. Being the best mom that you can be, but never lose yourself

    I love being a mom, I really do nothing makes me happier than seeing my daughter happy and learning! However when we become mom’s we have so many overwhelming feelings and everything is so new, and scary and we just want to be the best mom that we can be and this is great, but at the same time we don’t fill up our own cup. We are putting our children first, which we should but our well being is just as important we can only take care of others as well as we take care of ourselves. It’s really important that we don’t lose ourselves, that we maintain who we are, and that we still make time to do nice things for ourselves.

  24. Treat your body well

    Treat your body good, always. Move, make healthier choices, do things that keep you less stressed, make time for you, relax, go do something fun, anything that you can do to physically, emotionally, and psychologically make your body happy fucking do it. This body has to last you a lifetime so treat it as such.

  25. Be your authentic self

    My 25th Birthday is this weekend so I have been reflecting on the last year and everything that I have done, and need to continue doing to be my authentic self this year & this brings me to number 25 which I feel like we all have issues with this. We ultimately know what we want, we just have so many damn choices and we see everyday what other people are doing that we get confused. We start to become envious, we start to become jealous, we start to want what others have just because we don’t have it, or better yet other people make us feel that we should be a certain way because they are. Nope stop, every time you feel like this check in with yourself. Is this really what I want, am I really portraying myself in a way that’s true to me? We all want happiness, and we all want to be fulfilled but we have to realize that we have to work through all of our shit to truly be authentic within ourselves so this year, I strive to continue to use the tips above but to really focus on this last one because lets face it, our relationships with ourselves determines every relationship and situation outside of us.

– Alexa

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    Glitter On A Dime
    January 11, 2018 at 5:08 am

    This is an awesome list! I’m sure you will rock this year!

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    City Living (Boston)
    January 11, 2018 at 11:15 am

    This is a great list. i’d add sometimes youndo what you have to and not only what you love but eventually it will get you where you want to be. For me i’m working a lot on figuring out the balance part.

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      January 11, 2018 at 1:41 pm

      Yes, that’s such a good point I couldn’t agree more 🙂

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    January 11, 2018 at 11:26 am

    I love this list! So many things I need to be doing daily. Thank you for the list of reminders.


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    Rachel Lydia
    January 11, 2018 at 3:29 pm

    I love this! These are some amazing tips. I think focusing on the lesson in things is so important, it’s something I always try to do but it’s definitely harder in difficult situations.

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      January 11, 2018 at 3:31 pm

      I agree, I struggle with that all the time and I’m really trying to focus on it more, it really is hard to think that way in difficult situations ❤️

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    January 11, 2018 at 8:02 pm

    There’s some good stuff here! I especially like #10, “find your own kid of happiness”. It’s so different for everyone. I know my version of a happy life is so different from other people. If I can’t paint, I’m not a happy person, period.

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    January 11, 2018 at 10:28 pm

    Girl, yeasss!
    I just started giving myself these tips this year and you put it into words!
    Own this year!
    Much Love! ❤

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    January 12, 2018 at 1:12 am

    Such great universal tips! Wishing you the best on your 25th

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    January 12, 2018 at 2:17 am

    I love all of these! I especially try to focus on being a good mom without losing myself in the process.

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    Momma To Go
    January 12, 2018 at 2:30 am

    happy {almost} birthday! I am 40 and these tips hold true for sure. I have to say when you are young, and if you dont have kids TRAVEL! But I love that you love being a mom. Thanks important too!

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      January 15, 2018 at 3:07 pm

      thats very true, I wish I would of taken time to travel more!

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    Shannon | Shannie Chic
    January 12, 2018 at 3:44 am

    I love this! SO many great ideas! You’ve put a lot of my goals and hopes into words!

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    Lauren Sheriff
    January 12, 2018 at 3:45 am

    Love this! A great reminder 11 days into the New Year that’s for sure 🙂


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      January 15, 2018 at 3:06 pm

      Yes, I think we could all use a little reminder every once in awhile 🙂

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    January 12, 2018 at 5:34 am

    I love this list! Definitely need to implement these in 2018 myself.

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    January 12, 2018 at 3:21 pm

    This is a great list! I definitely got some wisdom from it that hopefully I can apply to my life before I turn 25 🙂

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    January 13, 2018 at 5:50 am

    First, happy birthday!! Hope you have a killer time. Second, HELL YEAH to each and every one of your points. I found myself nodding along as I read your post. I love the emphasis on loving yourself and doing everything with yourself in mind, because then everything else just works out. This was a really great read!

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      January 15, 2018 at 3:04 pm

      Thank you so much, I did have a great time 🙂 I am glad you could relate to this post!!

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    Anne @TheCalifornienne
    April 3, 2018 at 3:01 pm

    Such great tips! Gonna be honest, I slack on #3 and 7!

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      Alexa Bartimus
      April 3, 2018 at 11:08 pm

      I think we all have times we slack, we just have to check in with ourselves 🙂

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    April 4, 2018 at 2:25 am

    “Say goodbye to all things mediocre” – this really hit home with me! As you grow, one of the hardest parts is realising others are not growing with you, and perhaps they never will. So needed this list right now, thank you for posting 🙂

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    April 6, 2018 at 12:21 am

    Love this post and all the tips you give, especially being your authentic self !

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