13 In Mindset

Wellness Wednesday: Working through our Emotions

“Your body is not in control of your mind—your mind is in control of your body, and your mind is stronger than your body. Mind certainly is over matter.” 
― Caroline Leaf, Switch On Your Brain: The Key to Peak Happiness, Thinking, and Health

After many years of riding the emotions train, I finally decided to disembark. Along with that decision flows a passion to help others do the same and create a world where we can break free from the emotional prison that binds us. According to Dr. Leaf, 75% to 95% of the illnesses that plague us today are a direct result of our thought life. What we think about affects us physically and emotionally. Did you ever wonder why you feel deep grief in your lungs? The emotional component of that feeling causes the deep-seeded gasp for air.

Thoughts are planted in our bodies, and those thoughts become emotions. Emotions then turn into our attitude. Our attitude stems a reaction and our reactions are the whole of our emotional lifestyle. The emotion lifestyle turns into a physical lifestyle, which then leads to unhealthy choices and thereby disease. The cycle CAN be vicious if we don’t stop negative thoughts as they penetrate our minds. If we are overly stressed, we begin to choose foods that don’t support our bodies and become couch vegetables. We become tense and hold these feeling in our muscle tissue. We become busy and eventually overwhelmed. Cue the white flag.

Emotions aren’t always a negative thing. Certainly we also have happy emotions, but identifying your emotions is key to understanding what to do with them.

The late Robert Plutchik identified that there are EIGHT basic emotions: JOY, TRUST, FEAR, SURPRISE, SADNESS ANTICIPATION, ANGER, and DISGUST. Everything else branches out from there as illustrated in the “Wheel of Emotions.” In order to effectively impact or emotions, especially the negative side, it’s important to be able to identify exactly what it is you’re feeling.


Interesting tidbit: Emotions are generally stored in the organs of our bodies. Did you ever think that maybe the reason why you continue to have an issue with a particular area of your body is because of an emotion stored or trapped there?

~Anger & resentment are stored in the Liver & Gallbladder.
~Worry is stored in the Stomach.
~Grief is stored in the Lungs

~Fear is stored in the Kidneys.
~Stress is stored in the Heart.

So for example, when we’re looking at symptoms associated with high blood pressure, we need to be identifying the underlying emotions related to that issue. I know that’s easier said than done, but it is absolutely true that harboring toxic feelings creates disease.

Dr. Bradley Nelson from “The Emotion Code” said, “A trapped emotion is literally a ball of energy, and these will lodge anywhere in the body and disrupt the normal energy field of the body.” It may sound completely ridiculous (remember I said I was kind of “WOOWOO”), but it makes sense! Our emotions are literally “stored” in different parts of our body.

BUT…there’s HOPE! Lets talk about some actionable steps we can take each and every day to begin the process of removing the junk:

1. Take EVERY thought captive. Yep, you can stop any flipping feeling when it starts.

2. Ask whether this thought is moving you towards your ultimate goal, your WHY in life, or anything positive? If your thoughts are moving you away from those things, then feel it, and release. YOU are in control of your thoughts and what you hold onto. Your thoughts are not an authority.

3. Give yourself grace and compassion to FEEL a feeling. Thats ok and actually healthy! Burying the feeling is when we imprint the emotion into our DNA, which then flows through our body and creates physical toxicity.

4. Understand that you dont have to actually entertain every thought that comes into your mind. You CAN and SHOULD let them go.

5. Celebrate the process! You got this, girl.


~The Emotion Code by Bradley Nelson



Hi, I’m Terri. I am a boy mom, wife, fitness lover (often channeling my inner “Fly Girl”), coffee snob, proud Daytonian, and dog mom to a sweet little Cavapoo named Bella. More importantly, I’m a former food addict, on an ever-winding road to discovering and handling my emotions, and someone who discovered this little substance in a bottle that changed everything. I am also Certified Raindrop Technique Specialist, a Licensed Spiritual Healer, and soon to be Aroma Freedom Technique Practitioner. Daily, I educate others how to incorporate essential oils into their lives to begin healing related to past trauma, balance everyday emotions, and enjoy life every single day.

You can check me out on Instagram at: Instagram.com/terrijkidder or at my website at terrikidder.com. Thanks for reading!

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  • Reply
    Talia Scott
    March 7, 2018 at 8:25 pm

    Love the process of releasing what no longer serves me in a positive way!

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      Alexa Bartimus
      March 9, 2018 at 5:36 pm

      Yes I couldnt agree more!

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    March 8, 2018 at 11:30 pm

    Yes, absolutely true about emotions not being bad. As a psychologist, I’ve learned there is a lot of value to emotional intelligence, and most of us don’t grow up with good emotional coaches, which doesn’t give us the proper coping skills to handle negative emotions as adults. Good post!

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      Alexa Bartimus
      March 9, 2018 at 5:41 pm

      I love that you posted this, such a good topic especially handling negative emotions!

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    March 8, 2018 at 11:30 pm

    I absolutely LOVED this!!!! I fully agree. This is beautiful. Thank you!

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      Alexa Bartimus
      March 9, 2018 at 5:46 pm

      She really did write a wonderful post!

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    March 8, 2018 at 11:43 pm

    Lovey post! Most of the times we tend to find ourselves hiding our negative emotions. When we should be trying to figure them out

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    March 9, 2018 at 12:16 am

    I was JUST thinking about this today! I’ve learned to control my bad thoughts but this was just another push to do so! Thanks for your positive information!

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    March 9, 2018 at 12:33 am

    I was actually never aware of how much your emotions affect your physical health until I got a bit older and would get frequent headaches and stomachaches and realize it was because I was so stressed out and not taking time to myself. This is such a great post to remind people to really take care of themselves!

    Great post! x


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    March 9, 2018 at 2:52 am

    What a fascinating read. For sure mind and body are connected

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      Alexa Bartimus
      March 9, 2018 at 6:10 pm

      I thought the exact same thing when I read it!

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    Hannah DeYoung
    March 9, 2018 at 4:28 am

    So wonderful for everyone to be reminded of, thanks for sharing!

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      Alexa Bartimus
      March 9, 2018 at 6:09 pm

      It really is, I am glad you could relate 🙂

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