As a woman and mother, something that I’m increasingly passionate about is community.
I was a SAHM until my son was two, and I definitely lost myself during that time. I started an Instagram page for my son to just post photos of him in his outfits. Little did I know it was going to help me get out of my funk. The best thing that came out of that page was the huge community of moms I found who were just like me. We all let our role of being a mother consume us, so these pages were our creative outlets and our way to connect with other women. I met local moms, formed friendships and got our children together for play dates. When my son was younger, I didn’t really have any friends with kids so it was so nice finding women who could relate with all of the things I was dealing with at the time.
When my son was two, I went back to work. It was too difficult keeping up with his page, and it’s already hard getting a two-year-old to cooperate for photos as it is. Shortly after that, I decided to step outside of my comfort zone and focus on growing my own Instagram account (mind you, I had 300 followers at the time). I found a group of moms who were doing the same thing, and we bounced ideas off each other, rooted for each other and celebrated each other’s small victories along the way.
It has been so amazing watching all of those women grow-not just their following, but in who they are as women. I was so busy focusing on numbers, that I didn’t even realize that what we were building was a community. We watch each other’s children grow up right before our eyes, encourage each other, vent to each other, and comfort each other in times of loss. When something good happens to one of my mom friends, it truly makes me so happy. At times I’ll post about something I’m struggling with, and they reassure me that I’m not insane or a horrible mom. We remind one another how beautiful and special each of us is, because we know how easy it is to forget. We message each other late at night about problems we’re dealing with, or for advice on why our kids aren’t sleeping.
Most of us have never met in person, and some of us even live in different countries. There is something so unique about being a mother, that it instantly bonded us no matter how different or far apart we might be. Finding a community of such empowering women has inspired and motivated me in ways I never expected. Social media might seem superficial to some, but it has helped me to find a community that has completely changed my life.
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