I use to have a really hard time with finding balance, I would either be too overwhelmed or I would have feelings of the fact that I don’t feel like I am doing enough ,or pushing myself enough. I would go from one extreme to another and what would happen would be that I would try to take on too many things at once and then become overwhelmed, anxious, and exhausted. & to be honest I still have to constantly remind myself to slow down, to relax, to just chill sometimes. I think it’s really hard for all of us to find balance whether that’s in our careers, in school, in our social lives, in motherhood, in relationships, and our health. I have to constantly remind myself that I don’t always have to be doing something, that if I want to take the day to just chill in my bed that is okay.
Finding Balance will always require us to check in with ourselves, to see where we are at, to see if we are fulfilled, or if we are becoming burnt out, if we are able to add something else to our plate or if we need to step back for a little bit and relax.
To me it’s important to find balance in every aspect of our lives:
Motherhood – As a mother you know that we are constantly being pulled in every direction that we can be, constantly taking care of others, constantly checking one thing after another off our never ending lists and I think we forget to fill up our own cup a lot. We are naturally nurtures and ourselves are not always our first priority but I am telling you that we become so burnt out because we forget to fill our cup up. Remember and remind yourself that it’s okay that the house isnt always clean or that you don’t have to cook every single second, and if you want to hide in the bathroom for 5 minutes your kids will be okay and you are not a bad mom. Take a night out, take five minutes do what you need to to keep balance in your life you deserve that.
Self – Care | Your Mindset – I focus so much on mindset its not even funny I wake up read quotes, throughout the day read quotes, I am always trying to read a book that will keep my mind in a positive mindset, before bed read quotes lol it’s honestly just a habit now. I live for my routine my little self care times that I do things for myself because if I didn’t I wouldn’t be a bent outta shape, angry, miserable Alexa and I wish that upon nobody. Find what works for you take a few minutes a day and do it and watch you will start feeling better, you will start to feel a little less stress, a little less overwhelmed, a little less angry and irritable, and a little more you.
Self Care Ideas:
- A cup of tea you already know that’s first up lol
- Read a few pages of a book
- Join an online community and talk to other people who are interested in the same things as you, do this especially if it’s hard for you to get out of the house a lot
- Go out with friends, get a cup of coffee, meet for brunch take an hour every week and go meet up with people who make you laugh
- nothing beats good music + a bath
- cook while jamming music
- get creative – bible journaling, painting, journaling, writing whatever it is that makes you happy do it for a little every week
- Im a big fan of face masks they are so relaxing
- workout nothing combats stress like a good sweat session
- plan fun dates
- netflix binge
- go on a lonnnng drive
Working and going to school is HARD, alone working and going to school are hard they take it out of you. If you are stressed out, burnt out, overwhelmed by your job or school I feel you. Take a time out, step back and evaluate what is working and what isn’t? Are you a procrastinator like me, if so I will literally wait till the last minute to get my school work done and then get pissed because I have so much to do. Yes I work well under pressure but at the same time I had an entire week to get things done. Make a list and check things off, one at a time I had to start doing this if I thought about everything I had to do I would just get immediately overwhelmed now I make a list each day and check things off so I feel a lot better. Let’s stop waiting till the last minute, I am guilty of this too but honestly we bring the stress on ourselves as procrastinators.
Relationships- Any time of relationship is hard, romantic and friendship. Conflict will always arise but its how we deal with conflict that matters. Sometimes its good to take a step back and to gain a new perspective about why things are going bad, or why so much arguing is happening, or why something your friend said affected you in some way. We perceive things based off of how we feel internally take a step back and analyze yourself if things feel like they continue to go wrong. & sometimes you are just in a shitty relationship or a shitty friendship and you need to kick it to the curb. Ultimately you know whats right for you take the steps to make things better and have your relationships grow or realize that it’s time to let the relationship/friendship go and move along.
Health – We are 100 percent in charge of our health. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve been made fun of because of the choices that I make when eating. I choose to live a healthier lifestyle because that is what is right for me, you know what is right for you. If you feel like shit all the time make a change, if you are thriving and you like how things are going stay like that. Don’t let other people dictate how you eat, or how you move your body those are your decisions. I do preach balance because I do think its important to fuel my body with good whole foods, but hell yes I still want to eat donuts and noodles too. 80/20 is what I live by and that’s what makes me happy. Find your balance within your health (:
Just A dash of Monday Thoughts – Alexa