9 In Mindset


Do you ever get in a funk and you just feel like you can’t move past it? Yep, that’s me. Actually, that’s been me for the last couple of years. I’m good, then I’m not, then I’m good then I’m not, then I’m good then I’m stressed then I’m good thenI’mm not happy. Can you tell that I struggle hard with anxiety? 

If not Hi, I’m Alexa and I struggle with my mental health. I have anxiety and I use to be 100% ashamed to say that out loud but here I am embracing my flaws and all! I use to be really hard on myself because I was an over worrier, or I was too sensitive, or I was (insert word here) sometimes I still am but I am learning the more I step into being who I really am the less hard I am on myself. This is the first time in a couple of months I can actually write about mindset, I’ve sat down multiple times but I just wasn’t feeling it. You see I was working a 9-5 and also starting freelancing as a Social Media Manager, also being a momma, and also trying to complete my Bachelor’s degree. As a society, we see busy as doing our best, but really what I was doing was burning myself out, making my anxiety worse, and trying to be someone I wasn’t because I was afraid to leave my security blanket. I would work all day, pick up Brielle from daycare be with her until she went to sleep, then I would work again and do homework till about 2-3am guess what I also was doing not taking care of myself, not eating how I wanted to, not working out, not spending time with friends, spending too much time by myself with my computer working.

The problem is, is that when we are feeling bad we know we need to make changes, we know what we should be doing, we know how to make ourselves feel better but we are basically just stuck. I knew I wasn’t being the best I could be, I knew I wasn’t taking care of myself but I just didn’t care not going to lie. What I learned though is that you just have to learn the ride the waves. Especially because I work in Digital Marketing every day I see the highlight filters, the presets, the graphics design, the pictures of everyone in their happiest moments and it’s easy to start comparing. I read a quote it says “Mental health is important but we are in danger of over-diagnosing mental health issues. Not everything is a mental health condition. It’s okay to be sad, its okay to be nervous, its okay to think “what am I doing with my life” without diagnosing yourself with a mental illness” The thing I like about this is that we are constantly shown the highlight reels of everyone’s life, and we are going through a funk its so hard not to compare and make ourselves feel even worse, and then get even deeper in a rut. While it shouldn’t take away from the fact that a lot of people including myself do struggle with mental illness still not everything has to do with me having anxiety. Some things are just sad, some things are just frustrating, some things just really do suck and that’s okay.

The biggest thing you can do is have acceptance for how you feel, and what you are going through. Learn to ride the waves, instead of resisting them. Lets be real life sucks lol, responsibilities are mundane, we are constantly stressed, overbooked, and we never get enough sleep. Work, school, being a parent is hard, we are going to go through waves of being happy, and not being happy. Being fulfilled and not being fulfilled and instead of freaking out about it we need to learn to ride the wave and work through it.


Ways to deal with feeling shitty: 

  • Say no when you don’t feel like doing something (LOL I say yes to everything, and then I cancel anyways so I really should just say no it’s not that hard) IF the people in your life get mad for that say seeeeee yah you don’t need people like that.
  • go to therapy, THERAPY is so damn good. The people in our lives are biased because they care about us go to someone who is truly going to help you work through your issues. Side note we all have issues don’t act like your perfect!
  • Move your body we all need some type of movement, I am notorious for stopping this when I feel in a rut, and I definitely need it!
  • Vent it out, write it out, find a hobby that you seriously love doing that lets you blow off some steam we all need our things.

What is something you do to ride the waves?



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  • Reply
    Michelle Wintersteen
    November 28, 2018 at 1:21 am

    Loving these tips. It’s really easy to get down on ourselves when we are in a creative funk or just a funk in general. I find that the best way for me to get out is to go back to what I like to do — eat healthy, work out, spend less time behind screens, and go be with people instead of be in my own head.

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      Alexa Bartimus
      November 28, 2018 at 7:51 pm

      I love that so much, be with people instead of your own head that’s good!

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    November 28, 2018 at 6:55 am

    I LOVE this post girl. I needed to come across this today. I completely relate, and sometimes it is hard to get out of that funk. Thank you for sharing. xx Alex

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      Alexa Bartimus
      November 28, 2018 at 7:50 pm

      I am so glad you were able to relate!!

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    November 30, 2018 at 7:08 am

    This is a fantastic post, Alexa! While the holidays are supposed to be such a happy time…it always feels that this time of year is when I get into my worst ruts. This post came at just the right time. I love exercising and writing down my feelings when this happens. I REALLY need to work on saying NO as well. I can’t remember the last time I did that…

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    November 30, 2018 at 4:04 pm

    These are great tips and I can totally related to battling with mental health! Taking it one day at a time is key!

    Lauren | https://livebythesunshine.com

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    November 30, 2018 at 8:42 pm

    I often feel in a funk because I work in the arts and sometimes attempting to be creative 8 hours a day and then blogging and social media on top of it can feel overwhelming. You gave such great tips!

    Thanks for sharing! x


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    December 2, 2018 at 8:32 pm

    Omgggg yes. Let’s be real life does suck. I loved reading your point of of view on health issues. I can relate where life gets you down sometimes or when bad things are constantly happening. Sucks but what can you do except just accept it, and try to move forward. Love the tips and I hope you can manage everything better moving forward 😊

    XO Andie

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    Amber Super
    December 12, 2018 at 1:58 am

    When I get in a funk I usually take a step back and pull away from extra things I might be doing. I made it a point to make it to my yoga classes on a regular basis (2-3x per week) and I journaled a lot more. I wrote out what I was thinking, what I was feeling. Writing allows me to process what I’m growing through.

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